
On babies, old folks home and happiness
February 6, 2011I never liked baby or kids for that matter.. i always thought they were noisy, irritating and i just didnt like to carry them or play with them. The first baby i ever carried was Ashlyn. That says alot about my 28 years of life with regards to baby. Ashlyn did not change me. i still dont like to carry babies or play with kids, but i just love Ashlyn. I wonder how that can happen? its like i can carry ashlyn for days without putting her down if she is not that heavy, but i would not take the initiative to carry another baby or kid if i can help it.. Life is just strange la..
On dec 21, i sent my dad to an old folks home in JB. Many people ask me, isnt employing a maid cheaper and can help u do housework as well? yeah it is, but i think it is not humane to ask a maid to work in an environment like that. where there is almost 24/7 quarrelling going on and 6 cats roaming around. i shudder to think where is she going to sleep and eat.. Cost is not the issue here i think. if i can afford it, i will send him to a home in singapore, but it is a bit too expensive man.. Oh well, jia jia you ben nan nian de jing.
This CNY, i had the luxury of meeting some of my friends though the duration can be longer.. but its all about sacrifices.. what do you expect of a father that has a 17 month old kid and another baby coming out in Aug? Of course i look at my friends and i feel jealous, they can party till 3am and go home and sleep. i got to bring ashlyn home at 8 plus so that she can sleep at about 10 after bathing.. thats the life i guess.. i give some of my best years in life to my family and work.. i wonder what will i get back next time? Probably a bed in an old folks home. with the rest of my friends of course! that i dont mind!
it’s inevitable that you have to sacrifice – be it the time frame, or the number of parties you attend. But if it really affects you so much, then perhaps starting a family shouldn’t be something on your list to begin with?